In my personal experience, I have better starting speeds with less large stems, even with single twirl spins.
Maybe it is not the same for everybody. Maybe there are persons with hands that are more agile and less strong that the mine, and who can find easier to spin a top with a larger stem. Probably the optimal stem diameter for tops with a larger AMI than the one I tested here, could be a bit larger.
This is a test I made;
I turned an extension for the stem, and I turned its diameter progressively more and more narrow, from 12.5 mm to 3 mm.
I spun the top hard with the extension, many times, these are the highest starting speeds I had with the different diameters of the extension:
The grip of the extension for the fingers was perfect for the larger diameters but a bit slippery for the littler ones.
So, adding a knurl would further favour the littler diameters.
3 mm is very thin and I have two problems with it: little surface in contact with the fingers, (so it slips more easily), and also the fingers coming in contact to each other, so part of the energy is lost for friction between the two fingers. 4 mm works best for me, even for single twirl spins, so I make my tops with about this diameter of the knurl.